being naughty

Chances are your lady like talking dirty just as much as you do. It’s a great way to liven things up in the bedroom and to add a bit of heat under the sheets. Are you up for the challenge but don’t know where to start? Thankfully, iVillage is here with the answers.


talkin’ dirty

“Talk dirty to me,” I whispered to my then-boyfriend. We were a few months into the relationship (about the right time, by the way, to introduce something like this), we'd just seen a film with some decidedly sexy scenes and we had a few gin and tonics under our belts. I was in a “what-the-heck-let's-spice-things-up” kind of mood, delivering the line in what I considered a sexy, deep, guttural voice.


“Umm, OK,” he said nervously, his voice doing the opposite to mine and suddenly lifting a few octaves (not a good sign). Then he cleared his throat, his Adam's apple bobbing up and down… while other previously excited body parts just went, well, down. “I'm going to…I'm going to put my…um…penis? Is that OK or should I be dirtier?…Inside your um…Shoot, what do I call it? Girls don't like certain words, do they?” (No, we don't, but when someone asks you to talk dirty, it's like getting a hall pass.) A pause, then… ”Actually, first I'm going to take a shower and make sure everything is really clean, taking particular care to clean under my foreskin and then, of course, I'm going to pull on a condom…”


Not quite what I had in mind.


Ah, the joys of being a sexpert. Perhaps I'd overdone the lectures about cleanliness (British boys are mainly uncircumcized) and safe sex.

If your relationship is getting boring and stale then its time to spice it up a little bit with some dirty talk. Many people think that dirty talk is bad and may turn off a woman, they are wrong. Every one has a dark side filled with fantasies and self-created stories that they have never shared with anyone. Yes, there is a very high probability that your spouse or partner has fantasised about you in a dirty way, but might not have expressed to you. What dirty talk does is that it breaks all the invisible emotional and sexual barriers that are between a couple and brings them more closer.

If you are one those folks who want to bring some spark and dirtiness into your sex life but are apprehensive about what your partner may think about you, then fret not. In this article I will tell you how to express your fantasies and make your better-half open up with his/her own sexual fantasies. Let me reiterate once again, everyone thinks dirty. If you think your lover is innocent and clean at heart then you are wrong, wrong by a mile. That is, unless you happen to be in love with someone who is extremely religious.

First, let us understand what dirty talk actually means. If you think those cheap cheesy lines in porn movies are dirty talk then its time to cleanse your head. Those are downright derogatory and women may be repulsed on hearing such things, there is a difference between reel and real life. So you better not utter any dialogue from a porn flick.

Be slow and romantic in the beginning. If you are a girl then its easy for you to initiate dirty talk because almost all men are comfortable with it. But if you are a man then I would suggest you start off with sexy talk instead of being dirty, women take some time to open up. Start by texting her "I can't wait to see those sexy curves tonight". And while you are having sex that night, take it up a notch higher by saying something like "I love it when you ride me". Keep talking romantic but not-so-dirty talk for few days and soon you will notice a change in her tone. Once she starts talking dirty, its time for you to engage in some more dirtiness. Here are few comments that you can say to her:

1. I want to bang you in the bathroom tonight.
2. Kiss my shaft and ride it like a cowgirl
3. I want to go down on you and eat you out.

Share some of your fantasies with her and ask her about her personal fantasies, you will be surprised to know what is in her mind. Also buy some sex games and vibrators from a sex shop and indulge in some sex games. Remember, do not say anything that is insulting and repulsive like "I want to f**k you and your sexy sister together". This will turn her off big time and you might end being dumped. So mind your language when talking dirty.

Now that you know how to talk dirty to a girl, you must also know how to eat a girl out the right way and give her an earth-shattering orgasm.